On Valentine’s Day we had the pleasure of having Bill and Joyce Loewen, as well as Dale and Joyce Warkentin, be our “marriage panel.” It’s a good thing I was taking notes, because they have a lot of wisdom to share! Here is some advice they gave:
-Understand each other’s personalities. Consider reading personality books and learning about each other. The Loewens recommended “Personality Plus” by Florence Littauer and “Transformed Temperaments” by Dr. Tim LaHaye.
-Be aware of any unrealistic expectations you may have of one another.
-“If you’re going to go out and spend a lot of money, talk about it first!”
- Men need to be needed, and women need to be loved. Wives ask yourself; “How can I love my husband more? What can I do to show that I respect my husband?”
-Integrate life and God with family devotions. Schedule it into the day so it’s easier to do. Start with meals if it’s awkward to pray together.
-Be positive with people about your spouse.
-Communicate about sexual intimacy. The book “For Women Only,” by Shaunti Feldhahn, was recommended. This book speaks to the differences between men and women and helps seek common ground in communication. There is a companion book titled "For Men Only."